The Job Slut: Is Being A Job Slut Keeping Me Single?

True story: Last night, a friend of mine from an old full-time job texted me out of nowhere and asked me out.

Well, I guess it didn’t come out of nowhere. We used to work together in different departments that allowed some distance, but were close enough for contextualized bitch sessions. He and I went to lunch together at least once a week — sometimes in a group and sometimes as a pair. And according to him nearly three years later, he was into me the whole time. He was just busy pursuing all these other women who are totally not like me. And telling me about it over the lunch special at the pay-per-pound buffet!

Now that I freelance, I interact with people at a few different offices each week. There are nice, smart people at both. Some of the guys are my flavor of cute. But I don’t interact with them much. That’s one thing a full-time job is good (or maybe not so good) for — you definitely get to know your co-workers. An office romance can be a bad idea, but you can’t deny that it’s one of the easiest ways to meet people. It can’t be that much worse than meeting someone at a bar. At least you know the dude has a job.

But I digress. What I’m trying to say is that it’s hard to have a possibly inappropriate, definitely titillating office romance when you’re only around a few days a week and some people can’t remember your name.

There’s also the friendship issue. I don’t know enough about my male quasi-co-workers to develop a legitimate crush. But when someone starts amusing me on Twitter, I get to thinking that we could be friends. I’m that easy. And I’m not just talking about guys here. I’d love to be friends with cool women at my freelance gigs, too. Beyond Facebook, no one ever says, “Ugh. I have too many friends.”

I’ve been lucky to remain friends with some of my former co-workers, and they don’t all want to sleep with me. We’ve gone on trips together and watched each other grow. I met my ex-boyfriend through a work friend I no longer consider a work friend. She’s just my friend. I’m so glad I met her. How else would I have done it?

Freelancing is lonely, because you’re often either working from home or a sort of transient employee. You miss the invitations to happy hour. No one knows you’re on IM or cares about your birthday. Many of the people around you don’t know exactly what you do.

This is why job sluts have got to stick together. We have to put on some decent clothes and go out and talk to each other.

And job monogamists, be nice to job sluts. We’re crushable and interesting and just don’t want to be the awkward vagrant at the office. We’d go out to lunch if you’d ask us.

Job sluts: Do you think freelancing hurts your love life?

 

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