Is The Word B*tch A Compliment Now?


It is good to take the words that have power in them and take the power back. Now it depends on who is using them though. Sometimes when they call you b*tch they are not giving you the power. But sometimes I do think, “Yeah, watch out for me.” -Gloria Steinem

The above was an excerpt from a Grindstone article in February. Gloria ruminated on the B word after a screening of her documentary, Gloria: In Her Own Words, at The Athena Film Festival. Though Gloria was referring to being called a bitch 30 years ago, she brought up the interesting point that the word bitch has had quite an evolution. It originally was a descriptive term, then became horribly offensive but now could the word b*tch be a compliment? And if so, does this mean it is acceptable to use the word in a professional setting?

Last night a show premiered on ABC called GCB aka Good Christian B*tches. In April another show will premiere on ABC called “The B__In Apartment 23.” Originally it was going to have the actual word in the title but then the network made it change to Apartment 23 and then they let it be ” The B____ In Apartment 23.” So, obviously, networks aren’t going to blatantly say the word but the point is the premise of these shows is that the word bitch is being used in comical ways. And believe it or not this is the first time the B word has been used in a title of show which shows its progression. The word is also referring to strong women who don’t back down whether they be Christian Texans or insane roommates.

Kristen Chenoweth, who stars on GCB, told USA Today she was nervous about the original title, “because I am a Christian, and to have those two words together — but the truth of the matter is you can be both. And it’s not about that. That’s why ABC was so smart to change the title. It’s about women and their relationships. It’s not degrading.” The target demographic for GCB is women ages 25 to 54, “and it will strike a chord with women across that demographic 100%, said Channing Dungey, a senior vice president with ABC Entertainment Group. People of different ages and backgrounds “really give you different perspectives on what the word means to them,” says Anne Charity Hudley, director of the Linguistics Laboratory at the College of William & Mary. “For some people, it’s completely not derogatory.”

Because the B word has taken on this almost comical, larger-than-life image it almost makes it less offensive. In fact in 2007 when The New York City Council tried to put an official ban on the word, New Yorkers were furious. They said “they were taken aback by the idea of prohibiting a term that they not only use, but do so with relish and affection.” From The New York Times:

“Half my conversation would be gone,” said Michael Musto, the Village Voice columnist, whom a reporter encountered on his bicycle on Sunday night on the corner of Seventh Avenue South and Christopher Street. Mr. Musto, widely known for his coverage of celebrity gossip, dismissed the idea as absurd. “On the downtown club scene,” he said, munching on an apple, the two terms are often used as terms of endearment. “We divest any negative implication from the word and toss it around with love.”

Darris James, 31, an architect from Brooklyn who was outside the Duplex, a piano bar in the West Village, on Sunday night was similarly opposed. “Hell, if I can’t say bitch, I wouldn’t be able to call half my friends.””

Dr. Carole Lieberman, told The Grindstone the word bitch has taken on a ‘cooler’ meaning, in the same way that  ‘bad girl’ has taken on a cooler meaning.

“Bitch or bad girl means an independent woman who seems to have  confidence and chutzpah. She is intimidating. People fear her and want  to emulate her at the same time. This woman with attitude is actually hiding insecurities, but on the surface she seems fearless. So people are jealous of her.”

But that is in casual conversation where it is okay to be a little sillier and funnier. But what about in the workplace? Can it ever be construed as positive there?

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    • Sarah – Editor@ theoffice-UK

      Well then lets take BITCH…as a compliment, not a “sexist slur and what about whore then!? ;)

      Signing off

    • Bernadette Boas

      Sarah, I agree. If we accept these demeaning words to become ‘cool’ as Dr. Carole Lieberman stated above…. then we are accepting women to be demeaned…. in her comments below, I am not sure how the word Bitch can describe an independent woman while in the same breathe insecure…..

      I was pleased to contribute to this piece above, as society and the media has to find ways to motivate and inspire women and not continue to find ways to portray and denote them as caddy, mean, manipulative and cunning people – just for laughs… I know sex, violence and drama sells…but, at one time so did compassion, inspiration and life lessons…… where have all of those programs gone….

      As women we cannot allow others to demean, belittle and demoralize who we are….. Thanks Grindstone for addressing it.


      • Ash

        Yeah, and ya know, ’cause a real “strong” and “independent” woman switches out other women’s Birth Control Pills with breath mints. ->

        Also, I can’t help believe we are still living in some of the worst Misogyny Times, if we can’t even identify it anymore.

        To prove my point, you know certain minorities, who are discriminated, love calling themselves certain ‘negative’ slurs, too. What about shows with the Initials, R, F, D, W, & N? Guess what THEY stand for?