It’s like the complicated and tricky parent-teenager relationship. There’s the authoritarian figure who simply wants everyone to behave and perform to the best of their abilities. There’s the rebel who wants to be trusted to make their own decisions. It’s really a perfect analogy for the boss-employee dichotomy we find in businesses all over the country.
Except ya know, in a business you’re both fully grown adults who should be capable of doing your jobs. And hopefully there’s less acne. And possibly even more hormones.
Okay, there’s a lot that’s different. But sometimes, bosses behave like over-protective parents who refuse to acknowledge that their workers are human beings with their own thoughts and deserving of respect. Often these managers are insecure in their own position and looking to assert their dominance through fear or manipulation instead of trusting their employees to do what’s best.
When this happens, it’s easy to develop on a contentious relationship with the person who is currently in charge of your career.
This is just one example of office environment gone bad and it’s just one reason why a great employee might be despised by the management they’re working under. We have to admit that good people can be misjudged and mismanaged by an inept leader. And sometimes, one bad manager is all it takes to do real damage to a person’s career. The lack of reference, the possible break in your otherwise stellar resume, and “difficult to deal with” reputation. All of these things can really hurt you in a competitive industry.
So how do you turn the situation around? How can an employee move on from a heavy-on-the-hate love/hate relationship with their supervisor? And how can you earn a little goodwill from a boss who seems destined to despise you? Here’s the Grindstone Guide.