Bethenny Frankel recently said she thinks it is fine to cry in business or at work, despite her mentor Martha Stewart saying that women should never do this. Bethenny believes you can be emotional as long as you are still getting your work done.
In this newest issue of Self Magazine, Bethenny said, “Martha Stewart told me that women in business don’t cry. I say crying’s fine as long as you’re doing your job. And obviously, when you’re the boss, do whatever the hell you want!” Two empire titans have opposing viewpoints on a very common issue for women.
To support Martha’s point, crying at work can be perceived very negatively especially if you do it after a meeting with a supervisor. Crying from work stress or because of a disagreement with a coworker isn’t quite as bad, but it is still perceived very negatively. However, a recent study showed that crying at work is not considered the career suicide people often think it is. Mrs. Moneypenny, columnist for the Financial Times Magazine and author of Sharpen Your Heels: Mrs. Moneypenny’s Career Advice for Women, says you can also get away with crying if you’re sympathizing with a coworker’s personal tragedy, especially if the two of you are alone together.
With more and more women joining the workforce, author Anne Kreamer tackles the topic in her new book, It’s Always Personal. Kreamer’s research found that while men got angry, women, although they “actually wanted to get angry, do the more socially acceptable thing, which is cry.” Yes, crying is more socially acceptable than picking up an office chair and hurling it across the room. So there’s that.
Plus emotional intelligence is starting to be viewed more importantly in the workplace. Not that you should go around crying all day to show you have emotions, but as Bethenny says if you can your work done while being an emotional person then what is the problem? A new survey by CareerBuilder conducted of 2,662 private sector U.S. hiring managers, found that EQ is starting to be seen as more of an asset as opposed to a hindrance in the work environment. Granted, crying during a job interview might be a bit much, but if you can show your EI (emotional intelligence) in a way that makes you seem calm, stable and productive it really might play in your favor.