Bullish: How To Ask for More Money, Q&A

Jennifer Dziura writes Bullish, a career column, for The Grindstone on Fridays and Bullish Life, a life coaching column, for our sister site TheGloss on Tuesdays.

Over the last two weeks, I’ve been writing about asking for more money, and arguing that even if you think you don’t care about money, you should.

People say that no one on their deathbed regrets not working more.

Actually, plenty of people are on their deathbed worrying about how their family is going to keep the house once they’re gone, or who’s going to pay for their wayward son’s rehab, or how much financial mess they’ve left behind for their loved ones.

I think plenty of people on their deathbeds regret not working more cleverly, and not grabbing the rewards owed to them for their hard work.

But let’s stop thinking about death, because you are young and sprightly and can totally sort this shit out!

See Bullish: How to Ask for More Money, Part I and Part II for some ideas.

This week and next, I’m answering questions.

I’ve kept the names of commenters and given pseudonyms to those who wanted them:


Alma asks:

The architecture office I work at is very small (and getting smaller by the month). The people who work here are my bosses (husband and wife), me, another girl and our accountant. We were promised raises at the beginning of the year which didn’t happen, and now one of our major projects was put on hold. So they let go of the other girl whom i worked with because there will not be enough work to keep both of us, though she has a couple years more experience than I and she has a masters degree while i only have a bachelors.

Now that she’s gone I have to take up more of a work load, work later hours etc etc. Would it be wrong of me to ask for a raise even though they downsized? We only get paid salary, not hourly, no benefits , and I really don’t get paid as much as I should to begin with.

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    • Avodah

      @Jen- Thanks for the great follow-up. I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and advice.

      I strongly suggest that every single person reading this uses Glassdoor.com. (I don’t work there- just love the website).

      Good luck everyone with your job search/career change/asking for a raise.

    • Alma

      Thank you so much for your advice Jen. I actually got the raise, maybe not as much as I wanted, but really who will say no to more money?

      After reading your original article I became so stressed because I realized that I should stand up for myself and not just be a door mat, monetarily speaking. I had no idea how to go about asking for more money. Luckily at work last Saturday while going over some things that needed to get done for a meeting on Monday, my bosses and I were making some small talk. I mentioned that my water bill was going to be pretty high this month due to a busted water pipe, and my boss said “Oh yea that will be pricy, we should give you a raise”. It was a fleeting comment really but I kept up the conversation by stating that she was right, that I’ve been working there full time for a year, and interning for a year prior etc. etc. We kind of left it at that but I was so happy to have at least gotten the ball rolling. I thought I would bring the subject up again around pay day, but I didn’t have to. Earlier this week my boss approached me and mentioned that they were going to give me a 300 dollar raise, knowing that it wasn’t much but it was all they could afford right now.

      So moral of that story? Talk about money, all of the time.

      • Anastasia Beaverhausen

        Thank you for sharing your story and letting us know how it worked out for you. This really encourages me to get the ball rolling, as you said. It is so nerve wracking bringing it up yourself, outside of a scheduled performance review. Good job pouncing on an opportunity!

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