Former Cosmopolitan Editor in Chief Kate White is making the rounds right now promoting her new book, “I Shouldn’t Be Telling You This: Success Secrets Every Gutsy Girl Should Know.” It has the usual career advice such as focus on the big picture and not the day to day, go big or go home, look engaged in meetings and try to be more like that woman in your office you think is a b*tch. Wait what? Kate refers to this as “b*tch envy” and in an interview with The Today Show said “You think you can’t stand her cause she is a brown noser or brags a lot but really it’s because she is doing what you should be doing.” Do we all have a little bit of a b*tch envy at work?
In an interview with Boston.com, Kate talked more about this:
“Sometimes at work you discover that there’s one woman who annoys the hell out of you. Perhaps she constantly toots her own horn, ass kisses the boss in the most gag-worthy way, or goes after assignments other people want. But the reason she bugs you may actually be because she is doing what you know deep down you should be doing. Don’t hate on her. Turn the envy — and thus the focus — back on yourself and see if you need to borrow a couple of pages from her playbook.”
But isn’t brown nosing kind of annoying? Even for a boss? Not according to White. She said her employees would complain about employees that sucked up and Kate would tell them she liked being sucked up to.
So you may think sucking up to the boss looks annoying (and it probably does) but chances are, your boss likes it. Kate said to Boston.com, “Don’t worry about whether people will like you. You don’t have to be obnoxious, but you can’t be afraid to speak up, showcase your accomplishments, and take on projects others might want.”
Kate said all women need to remember that their career and job are two different things. She stresses that you have to be the architect of your career. “I suggest making time every week — even just an hour (but you have to do it!) — to network, develop new skills, reflect on where you want to go next, and how you will get there. I always say, it’s a matter of draining the swamp as you slay the alligators.”
Also, never wear a puffer jacket to work. It may be 10 degrees outside but you always need to dress for the job you aspire to have. Watch the video below for more advice.