Identity Crisis Solved: Learning To Define Yourself

Quarter-life-identity-crisisRecently, I had the privilege of kicking-off the New Year with Christine Hassler’s Goal Setting and Guided Meditation Workshop at the beautiful Levo League loft in Manhattan. My post-workshop reaction: Bring it on, 2013!

Among the many personal insights I gained from Christine’s workshop, I stumbled upon one that applies directly to former college athletes turned career women. If you are not a former athlete, I hope you do not stop reading here, because as I got to thinking, I realized this little lesson applies way beyond my student-athlete life. This is your fair warning to brace yourselves, Levo Leaguers, because I am feeling enlightened and this blog is about to get deep. Let’s do this!

During one exercise, Christine asked us to do a “review” of the past year. We looked back at where we were, mentally and emotionally, on January 1, 2012 and fast-forwarded our lives to this past New Year’s Eve. We then wrote down our blessings, lessons learned, and loose ends that still needed to be resolved from 2012.

To bring you up to speed, my 2012 could be called The Year of My Identity Crisis. I no longer played college softball, but watched helplessly as the next season rolled around, unfazed, without me. I accepted a scholarship for additional study at my university and found myself hovering awkwardly under the category of “undergraduate student who had already graduated.” Eventually, I stuffed my entire life into two suitcases and lugged them all the way from Colorado to New York City to start my career climb from the bottom of the totem pole. All the while, I felt confused in who I was without the things that had defined me for so long.

Clearly the old “identity crisis” story isn’t just my own, judging by the countless movies, books and quotes on Pinterest about the journey to find ourselves. If I could pin the biggest lesson I learned from 2012, it is this: You cannot define yourself by things that can be stripped away from you.

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