We already know you can get fired for being too attractive. But on the other hand, you might wanna use those looks to your benefit, because “seducing the boys’ club” means you might actually get somewhere in your career. Because clubs of boys equals success and success is not for the ladies.
When you suggest that your female employees flirt in order to climb the ladder, you’re being a sexist prick and you need to seriously check yourself. Or maybe you need to be sued for gender discrimination—which is exactly what three former female financial advisers from Merrill Lynch are doing, according to Business Week. Get this: they sued once before and lost, and now they’re trying again.
One woman was told to continue knitting instead of landing a client. So original. And yet another female employee was told to answer a phone because, well, women are supposed to answer phones—and when she questioned why male coworkers weren’t being told to act as a receptionist, she was told to be more perky.
The most ridiculous of all? The books these women were told to read. Now, I’ve worked for companies that provided Who Moved My Cheese (a book about four mice and career growth) to all their employees—but Seducing The Boys’ Club? This literary masterpiece is is written by Nina DiSea—”a big-time realist who has figured out that S&M–seduction and manipulation–is the secret to winning over (and surpassing) the big guys.” She is also one of the 50 Most Powerful Women in American Business, so there’s that.
The book’s description: “DiSesa asserts that women need to meld their feminine characteristics (nurturing, compassion, listening) with the traits of their male counterparts (competitiveness, decisiveness, combativeness) to expand their professional horizons.”
I can’t help but to think that Disea’s major successes have more to do with her own work ethic and intelligence than some manipulation of the macho. And while DiSea tries to fight against the machismo that does make up major companies, I don’t think her book’s approach is quite right.
DiSea’s victim-blaming suggestion? Learn to appreciate men. My suggestion: learn to appreciate women as human beings—not as people who should answer your phones or read books about how to get into clubs that shouldn’t exist in the first place.