You have a hard time saying no. I get it, you like your job, and you like having the opportunity to make money and be a professional. But at some point, you need time for you, too. It is so important to spend quality time with yourself, your friends, your hobbies and your life.
So when your boss asks if you can work an extra couple of hours or come in on the weekend and you really truly cannot do it or if you know that you just need a day off, explain to your boss that you appreciate the opportunity but that you have to decline.
Say no because it is good for you. If she does ask you to work the weekend, there are plenty of ways to do this in a respectful manner. You might say that you are interested in working on another project or that you already have prior plans but that it sounds like a wonderful opportunity. It is an easy and it can be awkward, but it is good for your sanity. If she asks you to work a couple extra hours and you’re exhausted, give her the times and dates when you can, and then decline.
Make time for other things. Do you feel like all you do is sleep work and repeat? If your days consist of waking up, going to work, coming home, going to bed, waking up, going to work and repeat, you might be overworked. You have to make time for your hobbies and your interests. Studies show that people are working way too hard. Are you one of them?
Stop thinking about work. Really. Are you unable to turn your brain off? When all you do is check your work email from your phone on your off hours, talk to friends about your job, bitched to your boyfriend about your workload, or upsets about work you didn’t finish while you’re at home, you need to check yourself.
Remember your sanity. Your job is important. And your salary is really important too. You may have amazing benefits and it might be an incredible job. But nothing is worth losing yourself over. When you get home, allow yourself at least an hour to focus on yourself. Put the phone down, pour a glass of wine or a cup of tea, watch your favorite TV show, right, or do whatever it is that you like to do.
Make sure that you do it and stay in the moment. If your mind drifts to thoughts at work, let it pass and then get yourself back into it that non-work mindset. Sometimes we hard-workers need a schedule (especially a Type-A personality) and making time for yourself–as anal as that sounds–is necessary.