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6 Ways To Bounce Back After A Fight With Your Boss

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Ever have a discussion with your boss that goes just a little too far? Perhaps you over-share or become defensive? Maybe you flat-out bashed your workplace or threatened to quit? There are ways to make things right.

6. Get to the core of the issue. For example, your boss is a total meany, right? If you’ve gone into a heated discussion with your bosses making vague claims, you won’t come out victorious.

It’s not enough to claim your superior is wrong in some way. You should keep a detailed log or email trails of behaviors, responses or conversations that highlight whatever the issue is. Remain concise: note the date and the issue at hand. Then, decide: Am I being overly emotional? Am I wrong in my interpretation? Is this personal?

5. Don’t panic. Everyone makes mistakes, catches as attitude” (as they say) and uses emotions before rational to dictate responses and reactions. Unless you’ve been fired on the spot, there are corrective behaviors that will help smooth over the aftermath.

4. Write your boss a note of apology, but don’t kiss ass. Be sincere. You don’t need to bring a box of chocolates. You’re not going for creepy. Even if you’re in the wrong, a letter of apology not only shows your maturity and respect, while putting said maturity and respect on the record. This is key.

So, yes, while you’re being sincere and all that good stuff, you’re also protecting yourself. If you ever, for a moment, suspect you’ve alarmed or disrespected your boss, a quick, clean, concise note (email) of apology is a smart way to go.

3. Make sure you’re doing your best work. If you’ve had some sort of major dispute with your boss, it doesn’t have to leak into every other aspect of your working life. This means you need to get to work on time, finish work on deadline, ask the appropriate questions, take initiative and generally try to stay out of the red zone. If you’ve learned to read your boss’ behavior and feelings, behave accordingly.

2. Put your best face forward. Just because you know things have become a little messy with your boss doesn’t mean you can’t stay positive! Often your positivism will rub off on those around you. Be kind, engaging, open and ready to help. We all have those “back off” days, but keep this to a minimum and your boss will see how valuable you are on the team.

1. Confide in HR, if possible. If you have a serious issue with your boss, or if you feel your working environment is threatened, the next step would include talking to your human resources department or a higher-up who you believe would be willing to listen objectively. This may lead to a monitored discussion. It may also provide insight and, again, put your side of the story on the record.

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  • Auri Gade

    Get to the core of the issue. Keeping a detailed log or emails trails of behaviors, responses or conversations that highlight whatever the issue is could help you acquire strong evidences.
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