Topic: personal relationships

Why Did A Police Department Demote This Woman Instead Of The Guy Who Shared Explicit Photos Of Her?

Why Did A Police Department Demote This Woman Instead Of The Guy Who Shared Explicit Photos Of Her?

Maybe Arizona policewoman Diana Lopez thought she’d found love at the office when she entered into a relationship with a lower-ranking police officer. She apparently trusted the guy enough to send him explicit videos and a naughty photo in which she posed in her police uniform. Unfortunately for her, the jerk decided this was too good not to share. More »

It’s A Date. (Or Is It?)

Itâs A Date. (Or Is It?)

The message came through LinkedIn. “I’ll be in New York again shortly,” it said, “and wanted to know if you want to grab a drink.”

I’m bad with names. His company vaguely rang a bell. We weren’t Facebook friends. “I’m sorry if this sounds bad,” I wrote back. “But how do I know you?” He explained that we’d met at an event a few years back. “We had a back and forth going on,” he said. More »

Commuting To Work In The Same Direction As Your Boyfriend May Save Your Relationship

Commuting To Work In The Same Direction As Your Boyfriend May Save Your Relationship

According to a new study featured in the Harvard Business Review, your morning commute may affect your relationship with your significant other, but not  in the way you would think. Couples who travel in the same direction to work were found to be happier in their relationships. For those of you who work on opposite ends of the city as your person, good luck. You are probably heading for Taylor Swift and Conor Kennedy territory.
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Robert Pattinson Expects Kristen Stewart To Keep It “Professional” On The Press Tour. Can She Do It?

Robert Pattinson Expects Kristen Stewart To Keep It "Professional" On The Press Tour. Can She Do It?

Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart are going through what so many people who work together go through: Still having to work together after a bad breakup. Celebrities, they’re just like us. The actor, who parted with his girlfriend this summer after photos were released showing her cheating on him with director Rupert Sands, said he wants to keep things totally professional when they promote the final Twilight film this fall. A source told The Sun newspaper: “It’s a purely business decision. He’s keen to make sure fans and Hollywood see he can be professional when it comes to Kristen.” We wish them both luck in this tough endeavor. Normal people can do this so why not celebrities? More »

We Make Our Best Friends At Work…By Default

We Make Our Best Friends At Work...By Default

I hope you like the person sitting in the cubicle next to you because they will probably be your best friend. Not because you like them that much, but because you’re too lazy to make friends elsewhere. A poll found that one in three British workers finds their kindred spirits sitting across the desks or gossiping around the water cooler. Almost a third of those polled said they have made the majority of their friends through work. The next most common place to make friends was in college or on vacation but begins people are working so much now, it is very difficult to make friends during an activity that isn’t work. More »

9 Things To Do When A Friend Asks You For A Job Recommendation You Don’t Want To Give

9 Things To Do When A Friend Asks You For A Job Recommendation You Don't Want To Give

The other week we wrote about what to do when a former intern or someone you used to work with asks for a job recommendation and you don’t think they are qualified. When someone you aren’t close with asks for a favor like that it is easier to turn them down, but what if it is a good friend? Your reputation is at stake and if they aren’t a strong candidate you could hurt yourself. How do you say no to them without losing them as a friend and coming off as a complete b*tch? We talked to some experts on how to navigate this tricky situation. More »

50 Shades Of Green: Everyone’s Favorite Sex Book Is Actually A Finance Guide

50 Shades Of Green: Everyone's Favorite Sex Book Is Actually A Finance Guide

In case you haven’t heard there is a book people are talking about these days and it is a little bit risque. Unless you live in a cave and have no internet connection then you know I am talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Everyone has been focusing on the scandalous sex and who is going to be cast in the mediocre film adaptation but here at The Grindstone we’d like you to stop thinking about the sex for a minute (because that’s what we do) and think about how this book is really all about how people try attain and hold power and money. Because that’s we do here. Take the sex out of everything and make it about your career and net worth. More »

‘I Have To Work With My Ex Everyday’

'I Have To Work With My Ex Everyday'

With 38% of workers saying they have dated a co-worker at least once over the course of their career and 17% reporting they dated co-workers at least twice, there are inevitable going to be some relationships that don’t go well. But even though the relationship is over, guess what isn’t? Your job. You still have to show up everyday and work with this person. “Whether you’re dating someone higher-up or a colleague at the same level, office romances are always tricky,” said Rosemary Haefner, vice president of human resources at CareerBuilder. We talked to some people who had to work with their ex everyday. More »

Have You Ever Downplayed Your Success For A Guy?

Have You Ever Downplayed Your Success For A Guy?

he recent feature story in Time magazine is all about the gender-role reversal people have been getting worked up about since, well, the beginning of time. In her article “The Richer Sex,” author Liza Mundy predicts that the next generation of women will outearn their husbands. Women already hold the majority of managerial roles and college degrees, so closing the wage gap or even reversing it seems like the obvious next step. Mundy also asserts that, despite our society’s anxiety that women’s success comes at the expense of the male ego, men will have no trouble adapting to the change. In fact, to assume that men don’t find career-driven, high-earning women attractive or marriage material is to sell them short. More »

‘I’m Afraid A Relationship Could Hurt My Career’

'I'm Afraid A Relationship Could Hurt My Career'

Last week when Lindsay Lohan was doing the press rounds for her hosting gig on Saturday Night Live otherwise known as the beginning of the 25 year old’s comeback, she mentioned in one interview with Matt Lauer that she has no interest in dating right now. Her main priority is her career right now and she is worried a relationship could hurt her relaunch. Lohan said, “I want to focus on me and I want to focus on work. And that’s another thing actually that in the past I didn’t do. I was more involved in my relationship if I was in one than myself and it became very codependent in a bad way.” Do other women feel like relationships, because of how involved they become in them, can hurt their career ambition? More »